How
should you coach your child's team? Here's some advice
on that topic, gleaned from comments by Sports
Illustrated For Kids readers.
10. Know the game. So, you think your son or daughter
will be delighted to have you for a coach just because
it means you can spend some "quality time"
together? Wrong! If you don't know what you're talking
about on the field or the court-and you don't make
the effort to learn -- they would rather you just
stay home.
9. Listen to your players. Kids like to feel respected.
Yes, you need to establish your authority -- to keep
both kids and parents in line -- but players are people
too. "My mom listens to us and our ideas. That's
why she's a great coach," wrote one kid.
8. Don't play favorites. For most kids, being the
coach's pet is bad enough; being one just because
of bloodlines is unbearable. On the other hand, no
child wants to be singled out for extra harsh treatment
because Dad's the coach. As hard as it may be at times,
treat your child like any other player. "Nobody
is more important than anyone else," wrote a
child in an SI For Kids readers' poll.
7. Get everyone in the game. All kids like to win.
But more than winning, kids like to play. Make sure
all of your players get plenty of playing time and
opportunities to try different positions.
6. Make it fun, Part I. The No. 1 reason kids play
sports is to have fun. You can help. Turn repetitive
drills into good-humored contests. Make games exciting,
not terrifying. Treat the team to pizza or ice cream
after a game now and then.
5. Make it fun, Part II. Enjoy yourself. Kids don't
want to feel like a burden. "My dad's a great
coach because he always has a good time," one
child reported.
4. Don't baby them. No kid wants to do 100 sit-ups
or run 50 laps, but players expect the coach to make
them do whatever they need to do to be ready for the
game.
3. Be a teacher. Kids play sports for fun, but if
they don't improve, they'll eventually get bored or
frustrated, and perhaps quit. Help them learn skills,
rules, and strategy so that they can maximize their
abilities.
2. Act your age. It's embarrassing for kids when their
parents argue with officials and yell obscenities.
It's even worse when the parent is the coach. Keep
your anger in check and your language decent.
1. Care -- but not too much. Kids want their activities
to be taken seriously, but not too seriously. "She
did not care if I won or lost" and "He's
not too emotional" were themost common reasons
kids gave for why their mom or dad was a great coach.
